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Ice cream is better than being burned. Playing with the dog is more fun than playing with a rock.
Sunny days are better than rainy days. Coloring is more fun to me than singing. These feelings of pleasure and pain become the bedrock of all our preferences and knowledge going forward in life and actually lay Whore houses in Belize foundation for what will become our identity later.
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Early in life, we are driven to explore the world around us because our brains are collecting information on what pleases and harms us, what feels good and bad, what is worth pursuing further and what is worth avoiding. But eventually, the exploratory phase exhausts.
And not because we run out of world to explore. Quite the opposite, actually. Therefore, our brain begins to focus less on trying everything for ourselves and more on developing some rules to help us navigate the endless complexity of the world before us. We adopt most of these rules from our parents and teachers. Hollywood sex chat conversation many of them we figure out for.
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Actions have consequences. You must negotiate your own desires with the desires of those around you. You must play by the rules of society and authority, and then you will, more often than not, be rewarded.
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My teacher will punish me if I talk in class; therefore, I will not talk, even if I want to. The knowledge of pleasure and pain is still there in these older children. They are no longer the basis of our values.
Older children weigh their personal feelings against their understanding of rules, trade-offs, and the social order around them to plan and make decisions. Everything is seen as a trade-off.
Older children and adolescents and a shocking of adults approach life as an endless series of bargains. I will do what my boss Wife want nsa Guthrie Center so I can get money. Nothing is done for its own sake. Everything is a calculated trade-off, usually made out of fear of the negative repercussions. To become an optimized and emotionally healthy individual, you must break out of this bargaining and come to understand even higher and more abstract guiding principles.
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Because feeling like you have to manipulate people into loving or respecting you feels shitty. It undermines the whole project. The most precious and important things in life cannot be bargained.
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While people who navigate the world through bargaining and rules can get far in the material worldthey remain crippled and alone in their emotional world.
This is because transactional values create toxic relationships — relationships that are built on manipulation. When Educated younger swm seeks intelligent older woman achieve adulthood, you realize that viewing some relationships and pursuits as transactions guts them of all joy and meaning.
To stand on your own two feet, you must be willing to sometimes stand. Adulthood is the realization that sometimes an abstract principle is right and good for its own sake.
The adult does what is right for the simple reason that it is right.
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An adolescent says she is generous. An adult will be honest for the simple sake that honesty is more important than pleasure or pain.
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Honesty is more important than getting what you want or achieving a goal.